ATTRACTIVENESS & IT'S VARIOUS FORMS

Seeing as today I celebrated a “Delayed Valentine’s Day” with a super-fly girl I thought I’d post something on couples. Here’s something which might seem like common sense to some but to others might not be. It's surprising to note how often people make comments about couples which go somewhere along the lines of one person in that particular couple being way too good for the other person in that couple. Critical words like that often make me think about what kind of basis such a statement can be made on. What I will focus on in this blog post is the one reason which occurs more often than not, that being how one person in the couple is a lot more physically attractive than the other. I suppose it is this disparity between the two which seems a little strange to onlookers passing by.

This post will explore something I think people should note, especially those willing to make such calls on couples which appear to be an odd match at first glimpse. For the record, I did not come up with everything here, but here’s a bit of what I think combined with some gnarly bits of economic and sociological theory.

Suppose that all the people in the world were commodities. With that being the case we can now postulate that each individual can be purchased (won-over/scored/obtained, call it what you may) with some form of capital. For argument’s sake, let us also imagine the world as a predominately free market, or in layman’s terms, a dog-eat-dog place generally free from intervention, in where if you want, you must do whatever you can to get whatever you can.

For those of you who are a bit lost with this slight analogy to economic theory I guess you could say that the more capital you have, the more purchasing power you have. In a nutshell, having a higher purchasing power consequently allows you to obtain better things.


So taking this into account, I believe that attractiveness generally boils down to three things, each of which equating to a different form of capital.

1) How attractive you are on the outside

- This would have to do with how you appear on the outside, which basically means your looks.

- This equates to SEXUAL CAPITAL

- This can be increased by working-out, dieting, make-up, surgery, etc…

2) How attractive you are on the inside

- This can be broken down into two sub-categories, your personality and/or your intellect.

- This equates to PERSONALITY CAPITAL &/OR INTELLECTUAL CAPITAL

- This can be increased by being a better person, studying harder, etc…

3) How attractive your wallet is

- This would have to do with how much money you have, which basically means your financial status.

- This equates to FINANCIAL CAPITAL

- This can be increased by getting a job, getting a better paying job, winning the lottery, etc...

Usually people will have a certain amount of each capital in varying amounts. In some cases the amounts may be balanced across the board whilst in other cases the amounts may be skewed towards only one or two particular forms of capital. For example, one person could just be average in every single avenue, being average with the looks, personality, and wealth they have. Alternatively, someone low in sexual capital may in turn be compensated by having extremely high amounts financial capital and moderate amounts of personality capital. Conversely, someone with a high amount of sexual capital may often have this at the expense of the amount of intellectual and financial capital they have. There are then also rare cases in where particular individuals either are extremely lucky, having high amounts of capital in all its forms, or extremely unlucky, having very little capital in all its forms.

With this in mind, one should note that some forms of capital can be converted into other forms of capital, some more easily than others. For example, models capitalize on their sexual capital by showing off their body and in-turn they obtain financial capital. Likewise, if you have a good idea, you can turn that piece of intellectual capital into financial capital by making that idea become reality. In addition to this, sometimes certain forms of capital can even crossover as evident in the particular cases where people find either smart or kind-hearted people to be sexually attractive, more-so than say a person with a good physique.

As hinted above, the accumulation of additional capital of any type requires more effort to be exerted in its respective field. In many cases, putting in such effort to obtain increased amounts of capital isn’t necessarily the easiest or most pleasurable thing to do in the world. The term which may best describe this could be the word “work” in its various incarnations. This in turn justifies why we often feel either jealous of them (or one of them) or feel like laughing at them when we see such discrepancies between the two individuals who are in such couples. On the flipside, it also explains why we ourselves feel either really lucky or gypped when it comes to us perceiving our (potential) partner. As rational beings, we all generally want to feel like we’re getting a fair deal as opposed to being swindled out of our various forms of capital. In other words, most of us want to see ourselves as being relatively equal to the partner we have in one way or another, hence the notion, "we 'deserve' eachother".

In wrapping up, I shall return back to the topic regarding how some people react when seeing a presumably mismatched couple. In its most common form, I’m guessing people fail to see that the not-so-good-looking person (I.e. the one deficient in sexual capital) may have high amounts of personality capital, intellectual capital, financial capital, or potentially even all to compensate for their lack in the looks department. It very well could have been these other forms of capital which brought these two together. As you know, we are all different and thus, we are all attracted to different things and each of us desires something different from the other. With that in mind, if you’re the type to judge such couples, then the next time you see a couple in where one person looks a lot better than the other, perhaps consider their relationship under this light before casting judgment. If you’re feeling jealous, just remember that couples which aren’t happy will more often than not, break up. Furthermore, there are plenty more fish in the sea, so just keep fishing…

Then again, your hunch could be right in where that person you're jealous of is just plain lucky~ \(^o^)/

P.S. If you can detect the subtle undertones written between the lines in this particular blog post, then odds are what you’re thinking is correct. The ulterior motive behind this blog post is that I actually do advocate a “particular something” many people in society look down upon hence, I felt that it was necessary for me to present this “particular something” in a way which makes itself justified. I also believe it is one’s obligation to, and the other one’s right to do this “particular something” should they wish to. If after reading or re-reading this you can see where I’m coming from, then the purpose for this blog post would have been achieved.