Seeing as today I celebrated a “Delayed Valentine’s
Day” with a super-fly girl I thought I’d post something on couples. Here’s something which might seem like
common sense to some but to others might not be. It's surprising to note how often people make
comments about couples which go somewhere along the lines of one person in that particular couple being way too good for the other person in that couple. Critical words like that often make me think about what kind of basis such a statement can be made on. What I will focus on in this blog post is the one reason which occurs more often than not, that being how one
person in the couple is a lot more physically attractive than the other. I suppose it is this disparity between the two which seems a little strange to onlookers passing by.
This post will explore something I think
people should note, especially those willing to make such calls on couples
which appear to be an odd match at first glimpse. For the record, I did not
come up with everything here, but here’s a bit of what I think combined with
some gnarly bits of economic and sociological theory.
Suppose that all the people in the world
were commodities. With that being the case we can now postulate that each
individual can be purchased (won-over/scored/obtained, call it what you may) with
some form of capital. For argument’s sake, let us also imagine the world as a
predominately free market, or in layman’s terms, a dog-eat-dog place generally
free from intervention, in where if you want, you must do whatever you can to get whatever you
can.
For those of you who are a bit lost with
this slight analogy to economic theory I guess you could say that the more
capital you have, the more purchasing power you have. In a nutshell, having a
higher purchasing power consequently allows you to obtain better things.
So taking this into account, I believe
that attractiveness generally boils down to three things, each of which
equating to a different form of capital.
1) How attractive you are on the outside
- This would have to do with how you appear on the
outside, which basically means your looks.
- This equates to SEXUAL
CAPITAL
- This can be increased by working-out, dieting,
make-up, surgery, etc…
2) How attractive you are on the inside
- This can be broken down into two sub-categories, your
personality and/or your intellect.
- This equates to PERSONALITY
CAPITAL &/OR INTELLECTUAL
CAPITAL
- This can be increased by being a better person,
studying harder, etc…
3) How attractive your wallet is
- This would have to do with how much money you have,
which basically means your financial status.
- This equates to FINANCIAL
CAPITAL
- This can be increased by getting a job, getting a
better paying job, winning the lottery, etc...
Usually people will have a certain amount
of each capital in varying amounts. In some cases the
amounts may be balanced across the board whilst in other cases the amounts may
be skewed towards only one or two particular forms of capital. For example, one person could just be average in every single avenue, being average with the looks, personality, and wealth they have. Alternatively,
someone low in sexual capital may in turn be compensated by having extremely
high amounts financial capital and moderate amounts of personality capital.
Conversely, someone with a high amount of sexual capital may often have this at
the expense of the amount of intellectual and financial capital they have.
There are then also rare cases in where particular individuals either are
extremely lucky, having high amounts of capital in all its forms, or extremely
unlucky, having very little capital in all its forms.
With this in mind, one should note that
some forms of capital can be converted into other forms of capital, some more
easily than others. For example, models capitalize on their sexual capital by
showing off their body and in-turn they obtain financial capital. Likewise, if
you have a good idea, you can turn that piece of intellectual capital into
financial capital by making that idea become reality. In addition to this,
sometimes certain forms of capital can even crossover as evident in the particular cases where
people find either smart or kind-hearted people to be sexually attractive, more-so than say a person with a good physique.
As hinted above, the accumulation of additional
capital of any type requires more effort to be exerted in its respective field. In many cases, putting
in such effort to obtain increased amounts of capital isn’t necessarily the
easiest or most pleasurable thing to do in the world. The term which may best
describe this could be the word “work” in its various incarnations. This in
turn justifies why we often feel either jealous of them (or one of them) or
feel like laughing at them when we see such discrepancies between the two individuals who are in such couples. On the flipside, it
also explains why we ourselves feel either really lucky or gypped when it comes
to us perceiving our (potential) partner. As rational beings, we all generally
want to feel like we’re getting a fair deal as opposed to being swindled out of our
various forms of capital. In other words, most of us want to see ourselves
as being relatively equal to the partner we have in one way or another, hence the notion, "we 'deserve' eachother".
In wrapping up, I shall return back to the
topic regarding how some people react when seeing a presumably mismatched
couple. In its most common form, I’m guessing people fail to see that the not-so-good-looking
person (I.e. the one deficient in sexual capital) may have high amounts of personality
capital, intellectual capital, financial capital, or potentially even all to
compensate for their lack in the looks department. It very well could have been these other forms of
capital which brought these two together. As you know, we are all different and
thus, we are all attracted to different things and each of us desires something different from the other. With that in mind, if you’re
the type to judge such couples, then the next time you see a couple in where one
person looks a lot better than the other, perhaps consider their relationship
under this light before casting judgment. If you’re feeling jealous, just
remember that couples which aren’t happy will more often than not, break up. Furthermore, there are plenty more fish in the sea, so just keep fishing…
Then again, your hunch could be right in
where that person you're jealous of is just plain lucky~ \(^o^)/
P.S. If you can detect the subtle
undertones written between the lines in this particular blog post, then odds
are what you’re thinking is correct. The ulterior motive behind this blog post
is that I actually do advocate a “particular
something” many people in society look down upon hence, I felt that it was
necessary for me to present this “particular something”
in a way which makes itself justified. I also believe it is one’s obligation to, and the other one’s
right to do this “particular something”
should they wish to. If after reading or re-reading this you can see where I’m
coming from, then the purpose for this blog post would have been achieved.
